My book


Good Sexual Citizenship: How to Create a (Sexually) Safer World

Most of us want to be decent people in the world. Yet when it comes to sex, we so often stumble and contribute to sexual injustice. Think about it: are we really still blaming victims of sexual assaults? Can it truly be that there is a gender based orgasm gap? Are we actually labeling people based on the kind of sex they do or don’t have? Why do we insist on questioning if sex is consensual when someone’s passed out drunk?


Our society is undergoing an evolution, and we should take this as a call to action to ensure that all people, regardless of gender identity, sexual orientation, ability, age, ethnicity, race, religion, or social class, are treated as humans worthy of respect.


Good Sexual Citizenship asks us all to break down sexual hostility and build up something better. This book strives to promote understanding and empathy, and includes a factual and historical backdrop covering gender disparities, women’s rights, sexual violence, prevention, and sex education, and challenges readers to use this insight, along with guided exercises, to examine their own potential for “good sexual citizenship.” Covering topics like consent, sexual assault, pleasure, double standards, casual sex, hook-up culture, and teen sex, I offer with tools to navigate societal messages, sexually hostile climates, stereotypes, and outdated mentalities.


This book is written for anyone—but especially the educators, the parents, the fellow students, the coworkers, the employers—who have helplessly looked around in the midst of some type of sexual injustice wondering, “What can I do?”

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Selected writing

The Washington Post

Using a child's identified pronouns is crucial

How Parents Can Help Dismantle Trans & Homophobia at School 

Why Parents Should Help Teens Develop a Healthy Understanding of Sex

Talking About Semitism With My Kids

WaPo's The Lily

When home isn't a safe place to be


Should We Be Talking to Kids About What It Means To Have Good Sex?

Make Your Child's School More LGBT-Friendly

How to Talk to Kids About Antisemitism

Rewire News

The COVID-19 Pandemic Exposes the Need for Over-the-Counter Birth Control

Why Florida’s Forced Parental Consent Law Will Hit Immigrant Families Hardest

The Gag Rule Will Actually Drive Up Abortion Rates

Talking to Kids of All Gender About Abortion

How to Destigmatize Conversations About Abortion

6 Ways We Need to Rethink Our Approach to Teen Sexuality

The Ontario Premier's War on Sex Ed

Fake Clinics Are Teaching Sex ‘Education’

The Salem-Keizer School District Sex Reporting Controversy


Scare Tactics Don't Prevent STIs

Her Money

5 Must Do's to Put on Your Estate Planning List

How to Stay Solvent in a Single Income Household


How to Talk to Your Kids About Porn

How to Talk to Your Kids About Sexual Harassment

Everyday Feminism

4 Ways We Teach Boys It’s Normal to Pressure Girls Sexually

Stop Making Kids Think Food Choices Are Moral Issues

How We Stigmatize Women's Body Hair

Common Questions About Alcohol and Consent


How I Explain Our Blended Family To My Toddler


Rats in Our House. Rats on the Street


Modern Loss

I Forgot the Anniversary of My Mom's Death

Exercise in Avoidance

Parenting After Loss

Hold the Line

How Sexism Hurts Boys